Today I’m talking with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish (Dall Gleesh), a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and the author of You, Your Husband & His Mother.

She has spent almost two decades helping couples get unstuck from repeating the same old arguments and start building relationships that actually work in real life. And she also runs her own podcast, Dear Dr. Tracy.

In our conversation, we get into how our relationships don’t exist in a vacuum, how family expectations shape our decisions, and why it’s so important to be on the same team with your partner, especially when you’re juggling extended family, ADHD, and a few generational differences in “how things are done.” We also get into setting values-based boundaries, navigating conflict without turning it into a blame game, and using small moments to rebuild connection when everything feels off balance.

This week I’m joined by Amy Marie Hann, better known online as The Activated ADHD Mama. Amy’s an ADHD coach, community leader, and author who specializes in helping ADHD moms wrangle the boring, repetitive tasks that tend to bury us, things like dishes, meal planning, and remembering to call in prescription refills.

In our conversation, we talk about why traditional productivity advice often doesn’t work for ADHD brains and why these mundane tasks can create so much stress and shame. We dig into some of Amy’s strategies that helps people build realistic systems to make those things easier and how starting with just three daily tasks can create stability when your brain constantly craves novelty. We talk about capacity, executive function burnout, and how to reframe self-care and rest as functional tools instead of guilt trips.

Today I’m joined by Alex Bellitter, Senior Manager of Coaching at Shimmer, an ADHD coaching platform that’s guided over 75,000 sessions. If this sounds a bit familiar, I also did an interview with Shimmer’s CEO, Chris Wang, last year - but of course in this episode, we’re covering a lot more and while Shimmer is mentioned it certainly isn’t the focus of what we’re talking about here.

We get into what burnout really looks like for ADHD brains and how the “grind it out” mindset backfires every time. Alex shares how resilience isn’t about powering through and we also unpack the ideas of capacity, how we burn through future energy, and why rest, play, and flexibility are actually key parts of productivity. Plus, we get into ADHD inertia, smart scaffolding, and that tricky process of rediscovering your strengths when your brain insists you don’t have any.